Have you heard about Pap Smear?

I heard about it but never see Pap Smear as a very serious & necessary routine for any mom & woman today. I just thought it was just part of a campaign made by health workers but never see its significance at all. 

Last August 16, my college friends and I had a reunion after such 8 years of not seeing each other although we usually talk on social networking sites. The usual laughter and teasing which are our bonding activities during the old day plus the 'karaoke' add on had complete our routine of enjoyment. But as we go along our relish, a topic was opened by Vanessa Griño whom is a medical representative; 'Have you had a pap smear ever?' Ooopps... I hadn't had one but although I heard about it.

Among the seven girls and a guy in the group, three of us are moms already and none of us had any Pap Smear since, of course aside from Vanessa. The thought of getting a pap smear or a pap test sank into e as days go on.  So one day, I pushed myself to get a researched done about the interest and value of it. I went to the city library of Davao located at the 3rd floor of the Sangguniang Panglungsod or the City Hall. 

I started to look and found out the best book talking about the Pap Smear or the Pap Test. And luckily, I could share it here without concerning of  practicing plagiarism. Hope these would also help other moms and woman out there to have a good comprehension about Pap Smear. 

What is a Pap Test?

 A pap test is the removal and microscopic examination of the outer layer of cells lining the cervic. Named after its inventor, Dr. George Papanicolaou, it is based on the principle that if the cells are normal, the result is negative. if abnormal cells are found, the the result is positive and the woman is asked to a repeat test to confirm findings. These cells are shed continuously and are contained in vaginal secretions. Samples are taken from the cervical canal during internal examination and sent to the laboratory for analysis with a microscope. 

-Surgery on File, Obstetrics and Gynecology by The Diagram Group
Paulette Pratt and Ellen Sarewits
Facts on File Publications
July 1, 1988


To be Continue.

VALUES EDUCATION:How to change your negative responses?

Have you ever had negative responses to your children at some time of you being a mom or a woman? 

When at times of difficultness like being stressed, getting into a hard situation, or suffering from a really deep pain and yet you still did negative responses to your children and suddenly you realize that you did was wrong? And you can't even hold it back the way you wanted and the way it should be retorted. That makes you upset, right?

I would like to share tips from the book '365 Ways to Help Your Children Grow' by Shella Ellison and Barbara Ann Barnett, Ph.D on what to do when you aren't happy on the way you reacted under a sudden unexpected situation.

1. Close your eyes and review the situation in your head, trying to see all the little details, onceyou have it clearly in your head, run the scene again, except this time change the way you act. Even though it is in your mine, it is a step toward being able to respond differently next time.

2. It is never too late to say you're sorry. A child will learn very much from this kind of modeling. You might say, " I had a very, hard day today and I am so sorry that I yelled the way I did, it had nothing to do with how you were acting. Do you forgive me?"

I hope these guides on 'how to change your negative responses would definitely helped us parents, moms, woman, and anyone on our daily lives to achieve a better and happier family we are building, foq a happy family would produce into a better individuals being responsible as each member grows in a society and become a good example for each one of us.

So, share us how did you had negative responses and how you had handled it on a well-behaved situation where you felt fine and satisfied? Feel free to share us your thoughts.

First Name Errors: A Serious Matter

Twenty-eight years of my life and of my existence and still my life hasn't move on into the life I was always dreaming of. Why? Because from the start of it, I wasn't even settled into the right way. Funny and dramatic but it's the reality. Yes, for some 'first name errors', on a serious matter, I still can't move on.

The Birth

I was born on February 21, 1984 with my parents' happiness  as my mom gave birth to a cute baby girl(love your own :)). With the excitement they had, together with the elders whom had they took advice on how to take good care of a child, they named me after my father's first name, Dionessa. Please don't gave any comment about it, I wasn't even giving any. :) I was left at the hospital for I had to be confined for the reason that I ate some of the wastes on my mother's womb. After a month, it was then I finally got home. But for the first three months, I wasn't enjoying my baby life for I was always getting sick.

The Life-changing Decision

Filipinos respect their elders and every opinion they gave really affects each family they get involved. So as one of the elders gave an advice to my parents whom are very young at their age at that moment, that the reason behind my sickness was I myself doesn't like the name they had gave me. Yes, I wasn't liking my name, as the elders said. How'd they know? We'll, maybe I wasn't really liking my name at all. Don't even mention it to my father. Anyways, I was baptized in the name of Mary Charmaine Ness Nioda and eventually after the 'baptism',  the sickness I was suffering faded away.

The' School' Stage

I wonder how I went to school with the conflict I had in my birth certificate. I haven't even realize how hard it is when the legal papers matter. Guess what? As of now, I am using Ma. Charmaine Ness Nioda, as you can see on myprofile here. I know, you feel like I'm riding on a roller coaster with different angles and heights. Wish you weren't like me.

Anyways, I did notice that I had a 'forge' birth certificate when I went to college and settle my own requirements by myself,  although, in my entire life I did know all about my name. But the university I attended to, haven't even questioned the certification I submitted to them. So I was thinking it was ok then.

The Realization

Along the college days, my friends and I decided for us to get a job at the same time. So, we look for jobs during the day for we  attended school during late times at the day, an evening students. So we went looking on fast food chains and given the requirements, I was stunned! One of the requirements should be NSO(National Statistics Office) authenticated birth certificate. Whew!!! That was it. I, having different names, wasn't getting the job I was looking for, mainly with the reason of conflict legal birth certificate.

That was one of the discouragement I had until some things did change my life. Have you had the feeling of not getting into somewhere you were dreaming of? That was what I feel until now.

I did look for jobs but jobs whom doesn't require any legal papers at all. What was the reciprocity? No benefits at all; Phil health, SSS, Pag-ibig etc. only with a much lesser salary that the law requires to. The worst was, I cannot even work abroad for we all know that there is much chance of a lightier life when you work abroad. A chance for you to get your dreams much closer than working here in the Philippines, as we all know, economy reality, but not degrading the government at all.

Lessons in Life

I'm not even blaming my parents for I understand that what they did was for my own sake but risking in reality. But how I really wish they haven't done this at all. Now, being a mom and a woman, I see to it that I am using the right thing to my children when in terms of their names. I rest assured that what's registered on the Civil Registry, the baptismal and the name they are using is not conflicting with each other. I am into this trouble, so I won't even wanted my children  or anyone get into this. I just hope the parents would really see to it and assured themselves the security to their children because my whole life change at all the moment my parents change my name.

The Solution

But it's not at all too late. :) I did research on the internet and do some work on going to the Civil Registry Office to do the homework. What I found out that it was really not too late for me to fix this trouble at all. What just made me discourage was the amount I should spend on to fix this. I heard that the processing fee is three thousand pesos plus the other requirements plus the two weeks publishing and the four to six months processing. See, it's even harder but at least there is this chance.

The Requirements

I went to the Civil Registry office one day to ask for the requirements for me to get fix my first name error. But the officer in-charge told me to present first my Certification of Live Birth. So what I did was I look for other sources and finally found out the requirements I should submit in terms of fixing my first name errors. What I found was:

RA 9048 (known as) correction of clerical error birth, marriage & death (CCE) and change of first name (CFN)

Requirements:

·         Certificate of Live Birth, Marriage & Death

·         Baptismal Certificate

·         Secondary & College Transcript of Records

·         Valid Identification Card

·         Police Clearance

·         NBI Clearance

·         Affidavit of Two Disinterested Person

That's it but here's the steps to be followed (the hard-long steps):

❶Receiving/Review of Petition

❷Payment of Fees(Treasury Office) -which I heard was P3,000

❸Preparation & Posting (10 days)

❹Publication of Petition ( 2 weeks)

❺Decision of CFN

❻Submission of Petition (NSO Manila)

❼Affirmation of Decision

❽Issuance of Finality

See? Reading these would let you imagine the money you should spend, the time you should spare, and the patience you should hold. So you realize the simplier way to fix your mind on your children's first name.

I should Do

My mother, whom I told the processes I should go, told me to get an advice from legal office on changing my first name error. She said that if following my live birth certificate name would spend a much lesser time, effort and money, then I should do follow it rather than changing it at all. I answered her, I would've get sick again. :) I just really love my name today.

Although, in reality, I just really don't know where to get the financial support for me  to fix things up, but I know at least I had the chance. I had started to gather the requirements I needed and all I hope was for me to fix my first name error for the better future ahead of me being a mom and a woman of today.

I am hoping to hear from you guys about how you had in a way involve for fixing first name errors and share it with us. :)

Monster Questions...

Have you ever experienced being asked by your children with 'monster questions'? Yes, I called them as monster questions because just really don't know where I could find the answers or even deliver an answer on a way they would understand.

One day, I was working on my blog when my eldest son, Ares, asked me a question: ' Why does I don't have an H. in my name?' I figured out what is he talking about. And I understood that it was all about his middle name. Yes, he has no middle name and he carries my surname for the reason that he's father was not there to acknowledge his surname being carried by our son, in short an illegitimate child but not unwanted.

So, again I understood that I was asked again a 'monster question'. So, I hurriedly looked for a better, easy-to-understand answer. I told him that his father was not there physically to recognized him on his birth certificate and explaining it in a much broad and easy way. As I was looking at him, I saw a still unacceptable confused mind. I wonder if he really got my explanation, but he did stop asking again.

Whew! What a day! I wish those monster questions would never come again, but I know it wouldn't . For all we know that children as of today are really smarter and confused than we thought.

Have you ever asked monster questions by your kids?How did you deal with it. I would really appreciate to get a response from you guys being a mom and a woman.

Mama, I Love You

I would to dedicate this video to all the moms and woman out there, especially to my Mom who has given me such unconditional love, a dedication without hesitation and a superb sacrifice. 

My mom, Florencia Nioda is a volunteer religion teacher. Although, there are a lot of things we don't agree at times, yet I never think of any mom in the world for her to be like. 

Every mom has its uniqueness in love and sacrifice. I, too, have my own. And when the turn of becoming a mom has placed in me, I, then understood the of what is like to be a mom. It was never easy as I thought. I wasn't even ready for that, but she was there. She had thought me everything I know and was even trained me before and then on how to be a mom. As, I remembered her saying to me always: "Wash the clothes and when time comes you have your own family, you'll know how to handle it." 

Sweet child of mine....

May 1st is my eldest son's birthday. And I wish him to be a good person, good health and that he may be God-fearing person. 

I remember the tough times we've been through. For nine months, I carried him with me alone. His biological father was not with me along the journey for the reason of miscommunication. It was tough and hard emotionally, physically, socially and financially. But I made it, I went to clinics alone not depending with anyone else. My family suffered too. When I was in pain, I know they were in pain also. But thanks to them, I was definitely strong. They made me stronger when I was weak, made me happier when I was sad, made me feel loved when I didn't found one.

But when the day has come arrive. It was 12:15am, May 1st when I felt something was different with me, I was on my ninth month being pregnant with my first child. But not yet my due. As I went to bed, I pee with pajama which was not normal. Ignoring it, I change my clothes and went to bed again. Minutes later, the peeing happened again with more liquid than earlier. So. I decided to went to my mom's room and told her what happened to me. So, we decided to packed things and preparing to go to the maternity clinic. As my mom says that it was time. At 2:00am, she had convince me to went to sleep again. But I couldn't sleep because the pain was starting to make me uncomfortable. Minutes after minutes, the pain goes deeper and deeper. I didn't know how hours have passed without I even noticed it. 

At 6 in the morning, we decided to go the clinic. So, as the midwife whom to noticed was an American girl with blue eyes, interviewed me. She told me that I should go for a walk so that it would make me easier to give birth. Together with my mom, I went for a short walk which was really tough, hard and painful. So, I asked my mom to go back to the clinic for I cannot take it longer to walk.

We went back to the clinic and placed me to bed. They checked me again and it was 5cm. And the pain goes stronger, I even can't take it longer. They started to prepare everything. Put a plastic cellophane at my back and told me to started pushing. And I started to push without even knowing how to. I pushed a little and then some little until I can't even breath. Miss Jennifer Akins, the midwife whom noticed something is wrong with me, told me to give a major push instead of two little push. So, I pusheddddddd hard. And then pushed hard again. But it still didn't work. They taught me different styles and position. I remember there was I sit. But those position still didn't work, so I went back to the original position laying my back into bed. 

But the pushing still didn't work, and the time passed. The baby inside me is getting into danger. But not until it was when they took a mirror reflecting mine. And I saw the baby's head, I panicked thinking how would my son breath? So maybe with the help of my adrenaline, I pushed the hardest I could ever done. I couldn't even realize how I breath. 

And thank God, the baby's safe and alive. I gave birth at 10:33am May 1st 2005.  

How To Celebrate Hearts Day Being Alone

In the past four years, I've been celebrating Valentine's Day with my family but this time's different. My common-law hubby's far from me, miles away from me. Albeit the reality of sadness, I'm coping up being alone yet I know I have to think it positively the way I don't have to put down of myself, right?


So, what I'm planning for the occasion are:

• call my hubby - I mean they should call me.
• go out with friends - Yes, my bestfriend and I have planned to go out. Go for a cozy place where music is served.

• checks my blog - Being part of my life as of now.

This things may not be a perfect plan for anyone, but these are the things my Heart's Day would be complete, for the meantime.

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How Would They Say If Moms Are Jealous?

How Would They Say When Moms are Jealous?

My partner says to his friends that I am jealous of him. But when they say it to me, I just laughed for I don't even think that I am.

I just text him every time his out, where he is, what he's doing, whom is he with and what time he'll be home. Those are just my questions and was that an act of jealousy already?

But the fact is, when I am out, I tell him everything I used to asked him without even him questioning me. So I thought everything was okey. Suddenly, when I had just arrived at a place where I should be enjoying, he merely is texting and asking me of what I just had answered him earlier. He checks me every minute and then. My focused, three-fourths at him, one-fourth at what just I am doing.

So, who is jealous? Are your hubbies or life-partners like that also? Please share, I also wanted to know and understand your situation. :)

I would like also to share this article about how to deal with jealousy, just visit this site.

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Moms:The Busiest Person

When i go to bed late at night, I still don't go to sleep fast for the reason of millions that I had in my mind. It's 11:40pm and still awake. I was thinking what's gonna happen with me a year after, or just in a month's time? What are my to-do-tasks in the office? What are the things I have to do for tomorrow? What does my son feels when I am not beside him? After a day of doing household chores, I still think what's the next thing to do.

Can you imagine? Still planning and thinking when in fact its the time for us to get relax and feel the comfort of our beds. But that's just moms, we still don't rest when in fact we are in rest. That's what really moms are, superwoman.

Here's a poem taken from an unknown author.

Today, just think... 

You're on a luxury vacation 

At the finest accomodation 

With the highest recommendation 

Getting utmost consideration 

Enjoying sparkling conversation, 

Single Mom

Sometimes there are reasons why women chooses to be single raising their children by themselves. But whatever the reason is, still do we understand what they've really going through? It's quite so hard to raise children by your own, financially, emotionally,socially. But how do we help them anyway? 

Single Mom Book

When I had my first child, I was by my own but not alone. Thanks to my family that I did survive with the help of my friends. And I would like to credit them the big help they've gave us.So to those single moms out there or just you knowing someone's in that shoes, just support them instead of blaming and putting them down. We'll never know whom they're carrying, maybe the future president of the Philippines.Why not?

So, to all single moms or even dads out there, I've researched about  non-government bodies to help single parents to raise their children but instead what I've found out is that our own government had all the benefits for single parents especially for their children of course considering that you are really single parents. Just visit the site to know more about the benefit.

SINGLE PARENT LAW in PHILIPPINES

Republic Act No. 8972 or the “Solo Parents’ Welfare Act of 2000”is the Philippine law on single parents. It was promulgated on November 7, 2000.

 

The law provides comprehensive program of services for solo parents and their children to be carried out by the Department of Social Welfare and Development (DSWD), the Department of Health (DOH), the Department of Education, Culture and Sports (DECS), the Department of the Interior and Local Government (DILG), the Commission on Higher Education (CHED), the Technical Education and Skills Development Authority (TESDA), the National Housing Authority (NHA), the Department of Labor and Employment (DOLE) and other related government and non-government agencies. (Sec.2, RA 8972)

To see the full version of the site, click here: Single Parent Law

Never feel sad on losing anything in your life because whenever a tree loses its leaf, a new leaf is ready to take its place.

~Anonymous 

 When you are a mother, you are never really alone in your thoughts. A mother always has to think twice, once for herself and once for her child.  

~Sophia Loren

A Mother's Story

I love my parents.

 Hmmm.... It's just really that mother's are superwoman. We grab every opportunity that comes especially when we see it as the answers to all our needs yet still the fact remains as we(moms) still cannot control things in our hand. We may do almost everything just for our family, courageous to face consequences, sacrifice and  struggles amidst our way just for our loved ones. Love-spoken is not enough says Albert Martinez in Nasaan ka Elisa. Blessed be our mothers.

About the Movie

Medy (Pokwang), a make-up artist, was given the chance of a lifetime to accompany a concert star to the United States for a performance.  She promised her family that she will return after a week.  However, while in America, she stumbled upon a former classmate Helen (Beth Tamayo) who convinced her to stay for good in the land of milk and honey.  She initially refused, but eventually gave in, when she got a call one night from her husband that they need a big amount of money to bring her youngest daughter to the hospital.  America has not been the friendliest to her and our story begins with her coming home to Manila literally with nothing.

Medy’s two kids, King (Rayver Cruz) and Queenie (Xyriel Manabat) are now 19 and 7.  King struggles with the return of his mother.  Animosity, resentment, shame, and anger are issues he has built with Medy.  For the young Queenie, it’s getting to know Nanay… who she thought would one day come out of a Balikbayan Box.  And as for her husband, Medy discovers something she least expected.

How will Medy put her life and that of her family’s back together, now that she’s back after 7 long years? 

To see all the details of the movie, click here: A Mother's Story

Credit to my source above.

3 Ways To Pamper Myself

Mother's unconditional love to her family is never to be compared to any kind of love in this world. The first to wake up in the morning and yet the last to go to bed at night. She checks everything to be fine. She thinks of her family needs without even realizing what's for her.

Being a mom, if we take good care of our family, it is also our responsibility that we should also take better care for ourselves. It's not being selfish if we should also pamper ourselves and put things behind our back for the meantime.

So, I suggest things I planned to do when I decided to take a 'rest day'.

me

1. Look in the mirror - When is the last time I had a hairstyle? When was it last hair dyed? When I decided to color my hair and got it perfect as I wanted to be; brown and bob cut, it boosted my self-confidence and self- esteem. Have a bonus of manicure and pedicure also.



2. Try to go shopping - Of course, as a mom, we used to hold budgets so we know how we can spend for a particular stuff. Just buy a new underwear even those cheap ones. i know from experience, it also made me feel better.

me and my friends

3. Go out with friends - I know its not selfish for us to sometimes enjoy, relaxed and go chat with our friends. Why not go to a place where good food and best music are serve. Let's just also try to hear other voices aside from listening to our children's utters, our husband's demand or our neighbor's chats.

So, these are my ways to pamper myself. Albeit, I'm just going to do this one thing at a time. :)

Being A Mom

me and my children

Hi. It's really amazing to be a mom. I feel like I'm a superwoman who can do anything just for my family.But sometimes, there are moments were emotionally depressed for just we're too tired. I'ts not that we give up, it's just sometimes we are drowned and feel like we should find our own self.

Have anyone felt like this also?